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Case #33

  • Writer: queerhellth
    queerhellth
  • Jun 21, 2022
  • 1 min read

Updated: Jan 23, 2024

My Sexuality Isn't Based On Childhood Trauma


I went to an OB/GYN for pain, when the subject of sexual activity came up I mentioned that I thought I was asexual.


After this, my pain was never addressed, the appointment became about ‘fixing’ my asexuality and determining if I had childhood sexual trauma and eventually the doctor pityingly recommended therapy and did not even do an exam for my original problem.


When I did talk to my therapist about possibly being asexual, I was really struggling with it at the time because of the bias I had faced from my friends and the internet, he told me that since I was struggling with it, I was not a ‘real’ asexual and gave me the childhood sexual trauma test (again).


He told me that even if I didn’t want to ‘work on’ my asexuality now, it was something we’d have to do eventually because sex is an important part of people’s lives.


Questioning whether I had been molested as a child was painful and unnecessary and having my sexuality questioned set back my growth and self exploration.

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